لماذا يبيح الإسلام للمسلم أن يتزوج من الكتابيات, ويحرم ذلك على المسلمة؟
هذا سؤال جيد, ويدفع إليه المنطق السليم, وقبل أن نجيب على هذا السؤال نؤكد على أن الإسلام حرم على المسلمة أن تتزوج من غير المسلم, قال الله-تعالى-: "ولا تنكحوا المشركين حتى يؤمنوا, ولعبد مؤمن خير من مشرك ولو أعجبكم" (البقرة 221)
تحريم زواج المسلمة من غير المسلم يرجع بشكل أساسي إلى أن المرأة عادة ما تتبع زوجها, والرجل عادة أكثر تأثيرا على زوجته من المرأة على زوجها, والإسلام دين له جملة من الأهداف منها هذان الهدفان:
الهدف الأول هو: أن يتعرف عليه الناس معرفة واضحة دون لبس ولا غموض تؤدي بهم إلى الإيمان بأنه الدين الحق, لذلك فقد أباح للمسلم أن يتزوج من غير مسلمة بشرط أن تكون من أهل الكتاب, يعني يهودية أو نصرانية, لأنها على أقل تقدير تؤمن بالله وبالوحي, بغض النظر عن طبيعة هذا الإيمان, ومن ثم فهي أقرب من غيرها إلى تفهم رسالة الإسلام, وخصوصا عندما ترتبط بزوج مسلم قولا وعملا, فإنها حين ترى من زوجها أخلاق الإسلام وسلوكه الطيب ومعاملته لها بالمعروف كما أمر الإسلام فربما يكون ذلك سببا في إسلامها, ولكن إذا أصرت على دينها فلها ذلك ولا يستطيع أحد أن يجبرها على غير ذلك, قال الله-عز وجل-: "لا إكراه في الدين" (البقرة 256)
الهدف الثاني للإسلام هو: أنه يريد المحافظة على أتباعه مرتبطين به, وبالتالي فهو لا يعرضهم إلى ما من شأنه أن يؤثر على إيمانهم به, وهو ما يسميه الإسلام (الفتنة في الدين) يقول الله-تعالى- "والفتنة أكبر من القتل" (البقرة 217)
وهذه الفتنة في الدين تأخذ أشكالا متنوعة, فقد تكون تعذيبا للإنسان المسلم تهدف إلى تغيير عقيدته, وقد تكون كما في حالتنا زواجا من رجل غير مسلم, أيا كان دينه, ولماذا الزواج من غير مسلم هو فتنة في الدين؟ لأن الرجل, كما قدمنا يكون عادة أكثر تأثيرا على المرأة, فربما أثر هذا الزوج غير المسلم على زوجته المسلمة تأثيرا سلبيا يدفعها إلى ترك دينها, أو على أقل تقدير, عدم الالتزام به وبأحكامه, وهو ما لا يريده الإسلام لأتباعه, بل يريد أن يوفر لهم البيئة المناسبة للالتزام بتعاليمه, من أجل ذلك فقد حث المسلمة على حسن الاختيار حتى عند الزواج من المسلم, وأمرها أن تختار الملتزم بدينه, وأن ترفض المهمل لتعاليم دينه, كل ذلك من أجل أن تظل المسلمة متمسكة بدينها, بعيدة عن كل تأثير سيء
The Secret behind prohibiting the Marriage of a Muslim Woman from a Non-Muslim Man .
Why does Islam allow a Muslim man to get married to Al-ketabeyyat (Christian or Jewish women) while prohibiting a Muslim woman to do the same?
This is a good and logical question , and before replying to it we have to confirm that Islam prohibited this :
And do not marry female associators (Those who associate others with Allah) until they believe; and indeed a believing bondwoman is more charitable than a female associator, even if you may admire her. And do not (allow) associators to marry (your females) until they believe. And indeed a believing bondman is more charitable than an associator, even if you may admire him.(Al-Baqara:221)
This prohibition is mainly due to the fact that a woman, usually, follows her husband, for the man has a greater influence on his wife than she has on him. In fact, Islam has a number of aims of which are the following two:
The first: Islam aims at being apprehended clearly and unequivocally. This results in people's faith that it is the religion of Truth. That is why Islam granted a Muslim man the right to get married to a non-Muslim woman providing that she is one of the People of the Book, which means her being Christian or Jewish, because she, at least, believes in Allah the Almighty and His inspiration, regardless of the nature of this belief. Accordingly, she can understand Islam easier. Especially when she gets married to a true Muslim committed to Islam's doctrines in all his sayings and deeds. For when she touches in him Islam's Ethics along with his handsome equitable behavior towards her, this can be a reason for her to convert to Islam. However, she has the right to stick to her religion and no one has the right to force her to convert "There is no compulsion in the religion" (Al-Baqara:256).
The second: Islam aims at keeping its followers committed and connected to it. Therefore, it doesn't let them being exposed to whatever has a negative effect on their faith. This is calledTemptation in religion "and Temptation in religion is greater than killing"(Al-Baqara:217).
Why does Islam allow a Muslim man to get married to Al-ketabeyyat (Christian or Jewish women) while prohibiting a Muslim woman to do the same?
This is a good and logical question , and before replying to it we have to confirm that Islam prohibited this :
And do not marry female associators (Those who associate others with Allah) until they believe; and indeed a believing bondwoman is more charitable than a female associator, even if you may admire her. And do not (allow) associators to marry (your females) until they believe. And indeed a believing bondman is more charitable than an associator, even if you may admire him.(Al-Baqara:221)
This prohibition is mainly due to the fact that a woman, usually, follows her husband, for the man has a greater influence on his wife than she has on him. In fact, Islam has a number of aims of which are the following two:
The first: Islam aims at being apprehended clearly and unequivocally. This results in people's faith that it is the religion of Truth. That is why Islam granted a Muslim man the right to get married to a non-Muslim woman providing that she is one of the People of the Book, which means her being Christian or Jewish, because she, at least, believes in Allah the Almighty and His inspiration, regardless of the nature of this belief. Accordingly, she can understand Islam easier. Especially when she gets married to a true Muslim committed to Islam's doctrines in all his sayings and deeds. For when she touches in him Islam's Ethics along with his handsome equitable behavior towards her, this can be a reason for her to convert to Islam. However, she has the right to stick to her religion and no one has the right to force her to convert "There is no compulsion in the religion" (Al-Baqara:256).
The second: Islam aims at keeping its followers committed and connected to it. Therefore, it doesn't let them being exposed to whatever has a negative effect on their faith. This is calledTemptation in religion "and Temptation in religion is greater than killing"(Al-Baqara:217).
In fact, this kind of temptation takes several shapes and of which might be tormenting the Muslim to change his/her believes.(in this case: being married to a non-Muslim whatever his religion is).And why is that considered a Temptation in religion? Simply because, as stated above, the husband has the greater influence on his wife, and perhaps this non-Muslim husband tries to exert a negative influence on his Muslim wife leading her to leave her religion or, at least, to be uncommitted to its Holly doctrines, which isn't wanted by Islam in what concerns its followers. For Islam wants to provide the suitable atmosphere for them to be committed to its teachings.
This is why Islam urged the Muslim woman to choose a good husband. Even when she is getting married to a Muslim man, she has to select the one who follows Islam's doctrines commitedly and rejects who ignores them. All of that is for a Muslim woman to cling to her religion and transcends herself from every negative influence.